Play With Toys, Not Feelings

After finding out about the death of a very VERY involved reader of my blog, I decided to write about something that was recommended to me by him and dedicate this post to not only him, but mental health awareness. While I did not personally know him, I do know that he has supported my postings and blog from even before day one. The fact that someone can not even know you and support you while they were battling with their own mental health is truly amazing and inspiring. I write this with a new perspective on not only mental health, but a newfound appreciation for the people who are supporting me in the background without expressing any of their own struggles out loud. I love you ALL and want you all to know that I’m here for ANYONE to talk to if need be... xoxo and most importantly…
Rest In Peace CL </3

Lets get into this my bebez….

When we are little and we go to Walmart what is the ONE thing we all asked for without fail?

TOYS. 

Being a kid, toys seem like the best fucking thing on the planet. Leggos, Play Dough, Silly Bandz, literally the selection was ALWAYS endless… and I was ALWAYS wanting something. 

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But… why did I always want a toy? I was totally capable of drawing something on paper.. I didn’t NEED to have play dough. I could have worn bracelets… I didn’t NEED silly bandz. Toys were not a necessary thing for me, I could have had fun without them. Right?

The thing that made these toys so intriguing for me was the idea that they ENHANCED my kiddy play time tings. The silly bandz were more interesting than the bracelets, the play dough was more fun than the drawing. 

EN-FUCKIN-HANCEMENT my friends. 

So can someone please PLEASE explain to me why people get criticisized or UNCOMFY with the idea of using toys when having sex. Please… seriously, I just do not understand it. 

Literally every fuckin person on this fuckin planet I SWEAR once you bring up the idea of using toys while having sex its one of two things.

1. Oh so the sex must not be good then if you need a toy..
   
2. Oh no… that is weird toys are for solo play.. Not when you are having sex
   

Lemme just tell y’all from PERSONAL EXPERIENCE (as always), both of those statements are incredibly and entirely fuckin wrong. 
Let me tell you why. 
As kids, we were capable of creating games to play with literally just our minds and we would have a BLAST. The toys that we used were purely assisting in the execution of the game and allowed for a more enjoyable time. Which is the purpose of **toys** (duh). 

If sex is literally “adult play,” then the use of toys is kind of like… expected tbh. We can have amazing sex solo, but the toys is just an added lil pazzaz. 

I was having literally the best sex of my life with this dude, and on a whim we decided to try out using toys and lemme tell you, by the end we both were laying knocked the fuck out after round fucking ONE… that is how fucking crazy the sensation is while using toys. That is not to say that we used the toys because our sex was bad, nor was it to say that we were bored with the sex we were having together. HOWEVER, the toys were used to add some extra SAZON to the activity… and sheesh… did it make all the fuckin difference. 

Now, I’m not saying I use that shit everytime, but when the mood and energy is there… BRING EM OUT BRING EM OUT. I’m not even saying just vibradors and dildos because there are SO many toys you can use down to the smallest things like a damn blindfold (which i guess isn’t a sex toy… but that shit is very fucking fun and probably the easiest way to add a lil excitement into sex). Anywho… toys are the fuckin shit and have always been the shit even when we were kids. So why the fuck are we so ashamed to use them during sex!! We all love sex, why not try to ENHANCE it at the same damn time.

Normalizing using sex toys while having sex is something we ALLLLL need to start doing. Toys are meant to be played with my people…
Toys can also prep the girls AND the guys for different positions and TEACH each other about their “happy spots,” weaknesses, and of course the different things that drive them cray cray… not to mention shit is SEXY AS FUK..
When you think about it, vibrators and didlos are used by girls when they want to do shit to themselves… so girl… mix that shit in with some good ol’ sex and imagine how fuckin fire it could be for you. 

So lets just say this all over again… because I want this to be CLEAR.
Just because a guy or a girl wants to use toys during sex does NOT mean that they are unhappy with the sex, nor that your girl thinks that you got a small “pee-pee,” or that you man thinks you dont got the WAP… because it is actually the complete opposite. If someone is asking you to have sex with them with their toys it’s because they are comfortable enough to want to explore themselves as well as YOU in a new sexual light…. So swallow your pride and just fucking try it out because its one of those things that benefits BOTH parties… trust. 

So guys,,, don’t feel “emasculated” or any less of a man,,, because using toys while having sex has nothing to do with your masculinity being taken away… you most likely are doing that all on your own lmfao.

And girls, don’t be embarrassed to break out that vibrator or dildo when you are with your man… take matters in your own hands and watch how much they are actually gonna like it. 

I mean...personally, I find that the people who aren’t comfortable using toys during sex are the people who haven’t gotten the chance to explore their sexuality as much as they should.. Like do your thing babyboo, if you don’t want to explore that is totally fine and of course not necessary.

In the meantime imma be over here with my lil mini collection, sexin it up like I’m in a romcom.