Cum or Go

CUM OR GO: A LADIES GUIDE TO A MUTUAL SEX RELATIONSHIP

Sex. Sex. Sex. Probably one of my favorite things on this Earth. Not because it feels good, not because its fun… but because of how it can bring out a whole new side to myself. It is sort of magic to see that the simply act of sliding something in and out can help you embrace a whole new side of your identity. 

I don’t know about any of you, but for me, sex brings out a completely different person. I’m submissive, yet controlling. Sexy, yet sweet. Smooth, yet rough. I can be anyone I want during sex. It’s the one time that I have in my life to have absolutely no filter. Sex makes me feel free, in touch with my body, and overall beautiful. 

So yes, sex is a beautiful f*cking thing. But you know what’s even more beautiful? Cumming.

Yes ladies… cumming for us exists, although the majority of us ladies will never experience a real orgasm during sex--- emphasis on REAL. As women, we are pretty powerless during sex. The hardness of a males “genitalia” determines when we can start sex and the “firing of their cannon” determines the end. So, we really have no say of when WE want to start or stop the physical act of sex. If you ask me.. This is some bullsh*t.

This topic is something that is almost an everyday conversation between my best friend and me. When you have obtainable, constant d*ck.. There is absolutely no reason for you to be fingerf*cking yourself in the shower after 30 minutes of sex. No. Reason. At. All. If I can make you cum.. I’m sure you can put in some effort to have me do the same.

I may not consider myself a “Sex-pert,” but I sure do know how to get myself pleased which SHOULD be one of your priorities during sex.

I am guilty of being a “people-pleaser” myself, especially during sex. I can completely relate to not giving a fuck about yourself during sex and just wanting to please your man. BUT… and thats a very big but… as a woman you need to be caring about yourself because trust me, your man probably doesn’t care.

I have had sex a good amount of times, with a decent amount of boys (notice how I said boys and not MEN). Therefore, I can speak from experience when I say that guys do not really care about their females cumming. You could give them the best sex of their lives and the second their little “explosion” happens it’s like “Okay time for a nap.” They expect us to be completely physically satisfied when their little guy is ready for night-night time.

The fact is we don’t cum when we have sex. 
The fact is 30% of women cum during sex. 
The fact is WTF IS THIS.

Last time I checked, sex is something that should be satisfying BOTH parties.. Not just Mr. Dicky Boy over here. So, why are we constantly faking the loud moans and orgasms (well.. Im not sure about you guys, but at least for me I’M faking it). 

Could be we want to be seen as sexy.
Could be we want to make our men feel good.
Could be that we want to live up to that “Porn Star” image.
Or is could be that we are simply fed the f*ck up with not cumming and we just want sex to be over already.

Honestly, I have no idea why I do this.. What I do know is when taking matters into my own hands that sh*t can be very satisfying VERY fast. But why can’t a man do that for me?

This all comes down to the number one basic need in absolutely ever relationship.. Communication. As women, we need to understand that cumming during sex is hard. But as men, our significant others need to also understand that when they are done.. We might not be done. So yes, that might require some extra “care,” even after their little time bomb went off. 

Sorry, not sorry. 

Sex is a mutual arrangement. Whether you are in a committed relationship or in a hook-up, emotions and effort is required from both parties in order to make it happen. So, thinking about purely your own pleasure/how you feel is only half of the process, which is something so many men don’t understand. The most important thing is communicating about WHAT feels good for you and what you like/don’t like.

Like I said, I am guilty of wanting to please a man, I completely understand how one could disregard how they feel just to make another human feel good. But as women we really need to educate these men on how our bodies work because this “30% of women orgasm during sex” bullsh*t isn’t gonna cut it for me.

Sex is fun, sex is beautiful.. But that shits mutual which means... cum for you, cum for TWO.

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