3/23/2021 0 Comments Weakness = StrengthEXACTLY the same person as you, but regardless of all of the similarities… we are all out own people and we are never going to like every part of someone (well we may be able to ACCEPT every part.. Just not AGREE with every part).
Lets get into some specifics. Someone very close to me once told me that I am too nice and that people take advantage of me being too nice.. And that of course, I should be more like them and just not give a fuck and stop seeing all of the good in people. And imma be honest with you, for a little while I thought about trying it out. She told me that I am always seeing the best in everyone, even when they do me dirty. And she was fucking right, that is EXACTLY what I do… but guess what? I fuckin love that about myself. THAT is the fucking key. No matter how close someone is to you and no matter how much trust you have in someone, they are always going to disagree about some aspect of you and how you are. The problem we run into is when they try to make you change this aspect of yourself. In order to reach your OWN full potential, being comfortable with not being fully liked is number one. Someone could love you, but absolutely HATE a trait that you possess, but guess fucking what? I DO see too much good in people, but I have a big ass heart. I DO get used because of my kindness, but I have a positive attitude. I DON’T want to change that because my heart is my biggest strength. When all else fails, I know that I have my love and my ability to care and THAT is something that not a lot of people can say. When you truly are just a loving person, you can love even when the world is full of hate. You can love even when the glass is FUCKING EMPTY. But regardless of how much I love this aspect of myself, I can’t expect everyone to love it as much as I do. With time, I have grown to realize that the only person that I need to be comfortable with who and HOW I am, is me.. Me… and oh yeah, me. I may sound like Im ranting a bit, but this is a topic that I have been thinking about for a while. The things that people hate about us are really the things that they love about us. They hate that we always love, but they love our love when they want our love. They hate the fact that we require communication, but they love how comfortable they feel talking to us. They hate how much we overthink, but they love how we can plan out a whole ass business plan seamlessly. They hate that we never stop talking, but they love how we make them laugh. It’s the simple reality, people want you for what benefits them. That isn’t even anything pessimistic though… your ability to make them laugh benefits them because it makes them happy. There is nothing wrong with that! The shitty part is that people complain and dislike certain aspects about you COMPLETELY DISREGARDING the fact that you are that way because of all of the strengths you possess. For example… I HATED how my ex was so quick to tell me he didn’t need me… but my favorite aspect about him was his independence and ability to be happy alone. So, I’m guilty of doing the same shit that everyone else does. However, the realization is the difference. Realizing that you don’t like something about someone, connecting the negative trait and the positive trait, and accepting them is the KEY in having relationships (whether it be platonic, familiar, friendly, or romantic) with people who are different than you. But not only does this realization tie into relationships with others, but also with yourself. When you stop criticizing yourself for your weaknesses and realize that you possess those traits because of your strengths… you will unlock a new level of self understanding. Everyone has shit… good shit, bad shit, smelly shit, pretty shit… we gotta, AS A SOCIETY, learn how to accept the fact that our strengths are our weaknesses.
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