3/24/2021 0 Comments Overthinkers are WinnersA LESSON FOR OVERTHINKERS: OVERTHINKING IS INSTYLE Sometimes, being stuck in your head seems like one of the worst things that could happen. Not only do you start to question your worth, but you start to ask the question: “Do I even know who I am?” When this question arises, that’s how you KNOW you have hopped aboard the “overthinking” train. However, this tendency to overthink, although societally thought of as the most unattractive trait known to man, can actually grow some of the most spiritually attractive people.
Making a habit of thinking about your Self is something super duper important (well, in my opinion). When I’m talking about Self, I don't mean “yourself,” like talking about what you did this morning or how good you look today. Self is your identity, something deeper than what you do and where you go. Self refers to your likes, dislikes, passions, insecurities, feelings, and how/WHY you interpret things in a certain way. People go an entire lifetime without actually knowing/ meeting their own self.. Which, if you ask me, is limiting them a WHOLE lot to living up to their full potential. People who criticize overthinking, yes, may have significantly lower stress levels and probably less grey hair… but, are they really... as Chance the Rapper would say... “Living their best life” ? With overthinking comes insane amounts of self growth, self-evaluation, and endless goals. Being able to get in your own head and figure out just exactly WHY you are insecure, can really help in personal growth. For me, I never really realized that I was actually an insecure person until I had time to think about myself and my self-image. As opposed to asking myself “What are you insecure about,” I started asking myself “Why are you insecure?” I learned that knowing WHAT I’m insecure about actually makes me feel worse. Therefore, coming down to the route of WHY you are insecure is the way you can start to correct your thought process. So, after a looong time thinking, I realized where my problems really came from... I am obsessed with this idea of “Perfection.” I want to look perfect, act perfect, and think perfect. With this “goal” comes many insecurities, physical and mental. For the majority of my life, I have been focused on WHAT my insecurities are and how to fix them to make myself “perfect.” So, I started going to the gym and using motivational speakers to help with perfecting my body and my mind. However, the closer and closer I got to “my perfect,” the further and further away I felt. Every time I felt that I was at my “goal,” I found another imperfection. It wasn’t until recently that I realized that “perfect” does not exist. So, instead of concentrating on perfecting myself, I wanted to figure out where this craving for perfection came from. After a lot of deep thinking (and random unnecessary hormonal breakdowns), I realized that my insecurities came from my desire to be wanted and seen as beautiful. By trying to improve on these mental imperfections, I could make myself more confident and, more importantly, disregard my insecurities. I realized that, while I did not care about peoples negative opinions on me, I did care about their positive ones. Therefore, I started to make some serious changes in how I carried myself. For starters, I stopped comparing myself to others, physically and mentally. I started concentrating on my own beauty and mental growth, and realized that everyone goes at their own rate to make personal progress. The most important lesson that I learned here is that beauty is something that is subjective. If you’re like my boyfriend, who is completely illiterate, and don’t know what subjective means...the word subjective refers to the idea that we all have our own idea of what beauty is. Therefore, craving the attention for being beautiful is a losing battle… because simply not everyone thinks the same things are beautiful. I have learned that overall the most important opinion to myself is the one I hold towards me. As long as I find myself beautiful and spiritually in touch, the right people will be drawn to me. The next step I took in this new journey to becoming a better me was finding beauty in everyone. This may seem like a weakness to some, but to me it’s something that is empowering. Not only do I boost the confidence of others by finding others beautiful, I also train my mind to believe that beauty really does come in all different forms. The benefits of this change of mindset is seen by all and helps me radiate positivity, as opposed to hate and jealousy (the two worst emotions). Although I am continuously making a conscious effort everyday to think in this manner and to stop comparing myself, I can honestly say that I feel like a more confident and spiritually connected person. I realized that while helping others feel good about themselves, I can also help my OWN self. Through positive thinking and perspective, I can train my mind to think in the way that I want it to. Although it required overthinking, I held the power to completely alter my self image and thinking process, by using just my mind. So, contrary to popular belief, overthinking may just fucking work.
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