It's The "Chasing Bum Ass Boys" For Me

You know what is so crazy?

Chasing.

The majority of the population fucking hates doing cardio at the gym, so explain to me why every girl and her fucking mother are CHASING THESE BUM ASS MEN.

I just got back from vacation and realized a shit ton after meeting these Florida boyz…

1. BOYS do not deserve to be chased
2. Chasing is mother fucking exhausting
3. I LOOK FUCKING DUMB CHASING

Now don’t get me wrong.. I do think that the chase is fun a little bit, but only when you are receiving the same energy that you are giving. 

But a bitch wasn’t getting the same fucking energy. Just like everyone and everything else in my life I was dishing out so much and nothing was reciprocated. 

Figures. 

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I literally made plans with this one dude who ghosted me THREE SEPARATE TIMES. And every time he called, I answered. Everytime he tried to make a plan, I said yes. 
Never once did we actually follow through with the plans.
Everytime the day came, he was MIA.
And guess what happened all over again? GHOSTED. 

And then I fucking realized the process… 

Chasing requires running around.
Running around gets me sweaty.
And I am too sexy to be getting so fucking sweaty over these little boys. 
I am too bad of a bitch to be fucking chasing.

I know all I fucking talk about is boys boys boys and more fucking boys… but this article comes down to the bigger picture….

SELF RESPECT. 

When you don’t see your value and what you bring to the table, you allow yourself to get stepped on and disrespected.
You get ghosted.
People repeat the same hurtful and negative behaviors.
Mistakes are repeated. 

Why?

Because you allow them to treat you that way and you are permitting the disrespect. So technically it is actually your fault, because once you forgive someone for the first time and there is no change in their behavior… YOU are the one compromising your self worth to stoop down to their viewpoint on you. And that shit is so unacceptable. 

When you don’t discipline a kid when they are having a tantrum, they will do it again. Why though? Well, they never actually learned that it was WRONG to throw a tantrum. 

And when you don’t respect yourself enough, how do you expect these people to ever respect the boundaries that you created? 

Because I know damn well… if you gave a screaming kid a lollipop they will scream again because they know they can get that mf lollipop.  

If someone is treating you less than you would treat yourself, then you are damaging your self respect. If someone is not respecting you enough to change a negative behavior and ACTIVELY making changes in their actions, then they sure as hell don’t deserve to be involved in your life. 

So message to all those lovely little ladies (and guys too), STOP FORGIVING SOMEONE FOR MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES.

Changed behavior, changed actions… that is what you need to start looking out for. 

Because words are nice and cute and sweeeeet, but if they don’t correct their behaviors then it don’t mean JACK SHIT. 
Empty promises are SOO not “in” anymore. We need some action.

And that is something I really noticed this past week or so. 
And thank god I snapped back into my little mindset of remember who the fuck I am and realizing that I need to respect myself a lot more than I have been. 

Because if I want to attract people who respect me, then I need to respect myself over everything. 

No wack excuses.
No repeated mistakes.
No more forgiving when actions haven’t been presented to correct the behaviors.

We are too sexy, smart, motivated, and valuable to be forgiving and forgetting for people who could give two fucks about actually making a change.