Effortless Love... MY A$$

“I want that effortless love…
The love that you don’t have to worry about, the love that you don’t have to try to maintain.
I want the love that just is”

This very quote/post is the reason why so many relationships are failing...and why so many people remain single. With a goal like THIS, we will never be able to find a real love.

Love is hard, love requires effort, love brings pain, love brings struggle…

Love fucking sucks.

As a person who is actually in love at this very moment in time, I can honestly say that love fucking sucks. I am constantly working on things, changing up the way I say things/do things, and am honestly exhausting my efforts.
And I wouldn't have it any other way. 

My love is real. Yes, I have to try a lot.. And put myself out there in more ways imaginable, but my love is genuine.
We fight, we fuss, we sometimes can’t stand to talk to each other, but at the end of the day he is the one I sit in silence with when we are mad… the one I kiss to make me feel better… the one I hug when I feel alone… the one I listen to when I don’t know what to do… the one I want to spend every second with.

Love is like everything else in life.. It requires effort.
You want to have a successful job, you need to work towards it.
You want to make a lot of money, you need to put in many hours.
You want to maintain contact with you parents after you move out, you need to put in the time.

Every relationship requires a lot.
A lot of time
A lot of sacrifice
A lot of you

If we keep allowing the media to see love as an effortless and easy act… we will start seeing a lot more lonely adults these years to come. We allow the media to portray this perfect image of love and people in love. All we see is the smiles and cute kissing videos, but we never see the fighting, the trust issues, and the forgiven betrayal. It is normal to not always be happy, it is normal to not always be smiley. The most important part is that you (in your gut), feel like you are in the right place. 
I have found recently that people like to tell you what you want and what you need.. Whether it be professionally, or personally. The one determining factor is what you GENUINELY feel. Do you feel comfortable? Do you feel like you are growing? Do you feel like this is a worthwhile investment for you? 

Love ain’t easy gfs & bfs… we have been prepping for the challenges love brings our whole lives. 

Remember those roller coasters as a kid… one second you were high high up, and the next you were upside down with you stomach in your throat. The same thing happens in love. The crazy part is that we pick who we want to ride with.. Who we want to go up with, go down with, suffer with, scream with ;) , and feel high with. 

Love might not be effortless, but it is one-of-a-kind.
Love might not be easy, but it is worth it.

So, yes, love is not all sunshine and happy lil tiktoks… no, you can’t always be happy with them… but who do you want to walk through all of the emotions with, who do you want to suffer with, and most importantly who do you want to risk it all for?