Bad Bitch Mentality ft. Kay Birms

If you have been reading my blog for a while now, you should know that my heart and mind have been through a lot in the past few months. 

From heartbreak to realizations… cleanses and reconnections, my mind, body, and soul are SERIOUSLY going through some fucking rehab. 

While rehabbing my brain, one young lady came to mind. 

Ms. Kayla **muthafuckin** Birmingham. 

This lil lady not only is killing it at pursuing her goals and aspirations, but she is also managing to inspire others while chasing her dreams. At 22 years old, she has somehow caught herself a job literally ACROSS the country working, networking, and creating some pretty great things.

How though?

I’d like to call it discipline, but honestly that word doesn’t even do her justice. 

I’d say the true word to describe HOW Kayla is doing this is summed up with the following word..

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Renovation. 

Not only of her life, but of her mind. 
Ms. Birmingham has somehow rewired her brain to literally think only productively and only in regards to pursuing her dreams. 

Pretty fucking amazing amiright?

However, with a mindset like that, I was pretty curious of her take on relationships and the prioritization of relationships in her busy ass life. 

“I want a relationship to be a compliment in my life. It’s never going to complete me, it’s only going to enhance my life.” Kayla really challenges the stereotypical female in her early twenties who jumps from boyfriend to boyfriend/ the girl who crumbles when going through a breakup. In Kayla’s eyes, relationships are not a necessity… rather they are a want, which really speaks a lot about her character. Not only will she attract the right type of people with this energy, but she will also repel the motherfuckers who are not going to benefit her and motivate her towards her goals. 

With that being said, these kind of females can be pretty intimidating, amiright?! These ladies are the ones who don’t need you… not financially, not physically, not mentally… they genuinely don’t need your ass. So when people like Kayla pick you to be in their lives, it’s a pretty big fuckin deal. 

Not even in romantic relationships, but friendship-type relationships, all of the people in the life of an ambitious human being are hand selected. Kayla touches on the idea that she is “picky with the people she lets in her circle” because she would rather have “quality over quantity,” which is something super admiring and rare to come across at our age. 

I feel like we are so wound up in finding people to surround ourselves with, we don’t concern ourselves in the TYPE of people… we just want to look cool with our big groups. When in reality, these people are not gonna push you to be the best, nor are they going to support you when you're jump starting your business… so to be honest, what is the benefit? A fun night out? A drunken party squad?

What about when you need advice on how to cut out your toxic ex? Or when you need someone to help promote your small business? 
I’m damn sure those high number, low substance people ain’t gonna do shit for you. 

People are so used to surrounding themselves with big groups of people to go out and party and take fun videos and pictures with… until they realize how surface-level their relationships are with these people. When they need someone to talk business with, or to help them through a tough time, who is REALLY going to be there for you? 

“You don't need anyone in your life, except yourself and a few genuine people.” 

People who go against the norms, like Kayla, tend to be a little more selective when picking their friends and make sure that they are going “match (her) energy, not deplete it.” This might mean that you have only one or two friends, but it also means that these people are your LITERAL ride or dies… they are there whenever you need them, they are supportive towards your goals, they are motivating and seem to always lift you up rather than suck the damn life out of you.

However, despite all of this amazing information, I would have to say my biggest takeaway after talking to Kayla was her prioritization of relationships in her lifestyle. 

She said one thing that really stuck to me. 

“I strive on my independence, when I am in a relationship I want to maintain the same independence as when I am single.” 

This mindset is so fucking important. Not only will she attract people with the same mindset, but she will also be able to achieve her goals without being distracted by someone who takes away from her independence. 

With that being said, Kayla also explained that with her go, go, go lifestyle, her priorities have shifted and that a relationship isn’t even in her radar… which is something I find SO inspiring. 

So many people say that they are “working on themselves,” but in reality they are in the background entertaining all their hoes and lookin for some sort of attention from others. Kayla LITERALLY is working on herself and for herself… which shows through her consistency to chase her goals, and the results of this ambition (which is clearly shown by her recent achievements). 

From master rewiring of her brain, to achieving the unthinkable… this woman is ready to take over the world…

And that’s on period…

Bad Bitch Mentality---

(also check out her content and new product line that I have literally invested in myself) 
 LINKS:
​https://hoo.be/kayla

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